Do or do not. There is no try.

I get depressed, thinking that everything I have failed at in my life is my own fault.  Thinking that if I had tried harder, I would have succeeded.  Thinking that if I had “put my mind to it” the results would have been different.

Thinking that it is my own fault I am not a better parent, a better friend, a better housekeeper, a better athlete, a better employee.  A better person.

I hope Yoda is wrong.

  • {Procrastination} released: Managed to do a week’s worth of laundry in one day.  Cleaned house furiously.  Stripped out the old liner under the kitchen sink.

4 thoughts on “Do or do not. There is no try.

  1. I am continually reminded of why we are great friends by this blog, and that I love you so much!

    We have three main family rules (in this order):

    1. Kindness Matters
    2. Have Fun
    3. Do or do not, there is no try (must be said in Yoda voice).

    If 1 and 2 are followed, then 3 just follows. And it’s not that Yoda is right or wrong, it’s that he knew that “doing” is to be active and “trying” is passive. “Doing”, to me, doesn’t mean making it perfect. It means being in the active state, not being acted upon.

    I happen to know and believe that *you* are continually in the active state of doing. You don’t try to be a good parent, friend, housekeeper, athlete, employee, person; you just are one. I do know this to be the case! Whether or not *you* consider it successful is beside the point–is just “is”, and getting to the point of accepting is the ‘work’ in this case.

    Are you Kind? YES! Do you have fun? YES! Are you active in improving your state? YES!

    Luv ya!



    1. You are so profound. I am going to ponder the whole “Whether or not *you* consider it successful is beside the point–it just ‘is…'” idea for about a million hours. Even if it’s not empirically true, it’s wonderful that YOU believe it, because you are my role model in most areas. Imagine the joy if I discover I actually am successful at those things already, and it is just my perception that is off… amazing.

      (I perceive that my dad will read this and say, “Hey, I have been telling her basically that same thing for years, and she never listens to me!” So I guess I know where Quinland gets it…)

      XOXO Love you, sweetie!


  2. I am newly reminded why we both love Deb so much 🙂 Besides the fact that she is an awesome human being, I read your blog and had to comment and she beat me to it and did a much better job!

    I would add that you are a remarkable sister. I read you blog and see so much of myself that some of these challenges must absoluely be genetic. And I agree with Deb that Yoda is very wise — and she equally wise to find such a great way to put his quote into life.


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