Sowing the seeds of love

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Patti had an excellent comment on the blog today.  She said that I should not talk so much of improving myself, because “improving” makes it sound as though I am currently flawed.  She suggested that what I am seeking is growth, not improvement.  She encouraged me to “seek knowledge and enlightenment that will open [my] mind and body to growth and maturity in a positive way that will influence [me] now and in the future.

One of my students once said of me, “She loves the dictionary.”  It’s true.  So let’s start looking up some words!

Improvement is defined as “To bring into a more desirable or valuable condition.”  My favorite definitions of growth include “A gradual beginning or coming forth,” and “A process in which something passes by degrees to a different stage (especially a more advanced or mature stage).”   Or how about this one:  “A purely biological unfolding of events involved in an organism changing gradually from a simple to a more complex level.”

Growth is a very different concept than improvement.  Do things change, often for the better, as they grow?  Certainly.  But the difference is that growth is a natural process, brought about by life events and experiences, without any of the “more desirable” or “more valuable” connotations.  Do we think of little kids or puppies as less valuable than the people and dogs they will grow up to be?  Seeds are not going to be trees without a lot of growing, but that doesn’t make it less desirable to be a seed.

I could take this tree-growing theme further.  Bonsai trees grow in a certain way and to a certain size because someone carefully trains their growth.  Perhaps that’s what I am trying to do: train myself to grow in certain ways, for certain reasons.  I just need to be patient with myself when I don’t get miraculous results overnight.  I need to be firm with myself as to my intentions and easy with myself as to the speed at which I change.

Five things I am grateful for today:

  1. Weird-looking Halloween recipes.  We are going to make watermelon brains.
  2. The Queen Mother.  (I am reading her official biography and it is fascinating.)
  3. Natalie licking my face when I dropped Lynette off after work.
  4. A sweet card and treats from my little Deb.
  5. Loose-fitting trousers.  Perhaps the eating well is beginning to pay off.
  • {Take good care of myself}:  Shopped for groceries! Ate pretty well.  No flour, sugar or dairy.  Going to bed at a reasonable hour.  Will have to make up exercise in the morning as my gut is not cooperating tonight.
  • {Live in a beautiful, orderly, clutter-free house}: Did dishes and three loads of laundry.  Processed some newspapers.

2 thoughts on “Sowing the seeds of love

  1. Oh, that Patti is a sage, steering you in a positiver direction. What a beautiful entry today, Li’l Lou. I especially love the last line, “[be] easy with myself as to the speed at which I change.” Brava!


  2. Why, thank you!

    I really liked the dictionary line about the “unfolding of events” causing gradual change. It makes one realize that one’s life will unfold just as it is meant to unfold – gradually, not all at once.


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