Curly girl

The very first year I taught school was just after David and I were married. At the time, I wasn’t sure I was going to keep my maiden name, although David encouraged me to, as a) my first and last name go very well together, and b) his last name is very common and mine is not. (Note: 99% of my readers know my last name and David’s, but in my “raised as the child of an FBI agent” paranoia, we’ll stay on a first-names-only basis here at the blog, for now.)

Just to try it out, I decided to have my first and second graders call me by his last name, so that I could see how I felt about it without actually having to change it. So I was stuck going by “Mrs. T.” all year, though I knew in the first week that I was not going to change it. It just didn’t feel like me, and if my husband didn’t want me to, then there was nobody advocating for the change!

Just before the end of that school year, I got my hair permed. Now, I had straight hair my whole life, just like Quinland’s. (Okay, not just like hers, which is as thick as Zumu’s, the lucky child.) Not until pregnancy hormones did a number on it did my hair curl. I am not at all fond of my hair curly, either. In fact, when I asked for that particular perm, my hairdresser refused to do it, on the grounds that I had made her promise not to give in to me if I were to have such a lapse in judgement. I had to explain to her that I knew it was going to look bad and that I was going to be unhappy with it, but that I wanted it done anyway, as I was getting ready to go to Europe for a year and wanted easy-care hair.

To make a long story short, she permed it, I hated it, and my second graders were completely freaked out. “You look like Curly Sue,” one said. “No, she’s Curly T.,” said another. That is how I always think of myself now with my curly hair: Curly T.

Why are you hearing about this now? Well, did you ever see the Friends episode  when Monica’s hair gets big and bushy because of the humidity in Barbados? I don’t know what the humidity is here in Lisbon, by my hair is completely unmanageable. It doesn’t matter what I do with it, within 10 minutes it is completely frizzed out. Ack. Easy-care hair it is not.

Tonight, on the Metro on the way to Game Night, I asked Quinland if it looked presentable. She stared at it, tried to put it behind my ears, tried to flatten it down with her hands, then looked me in the eye and said, “There’s no hope.”

All advice will be considered and attempted, if possible. I don’t have enough hair to try Monica’s cornrows, though they looked fun to swing around.

Daily Check-In:

  • I’m grateful! to the kind young man who played the last few games with us tonight, and to all the Portuguese gamers who made us feel so welcome.
  • I’m lighter! I finally got a massage yesterday. I feel sooo much better.

5 thoughts on “Curly girl

  1. Hmm Try lotion. Put some lotion on your hands not a lot and kind of rub it in your hands but not all the way then wipe your hands on your hair it might help. I do it sometimes on a day it gets to frizzy. also if you want you can use sunscreen. My hair dresser said in the summer time t to use sunscreen to protect the color since the sun bleaches my hair out. and it is nice on the part line where your scalp shows so you don’t get burned. any I know you can find lotion there not sure about other products. Give it a try.

    Also there are two females in the company I work for, with your last name and 26 people with David’s last name.

    My maiden name was also unique with the only other one being my dad and now I have a very common last name. But Tim really wanted me to change it.


    1. I have been soooo lucky not to get a sunburned scalp here! Your sunscreen idea is a good one.

      You are a very good wife. 😉 btw, where did you guys stay in Munich?


    1. So true! Quinland has that one down; he never even worries about his hair, just throws on a hat or a bandana. If only baseball caps were in fashion here, I’d be set.


  2. We stayed at the Hotel Wallis. It was pretty nice Tim Chose it for its location. It is really close to the Oktoberfest grounds. It is also close to the little shopping area which I guess isnt so little. You should look into this touring thing most of it is Free and put on by students we had a tour of munich for free we can donate some money to the tour guide at the end. They are very Knowledgeable. We used them in each city we visted. Some tours cost money but you can choose to view the free ones in the certain city. I loved it. Oh and they speak english. Most from what I noticed are Australian so that was really cool to meet some Ausies considering that is where we will be going next year for a possible 3 week holiday. Even the paid tours are not very expensive we used them for our trip to Versailles and we basically paid them for the price of the train ticket admission and a little bit for the guided tour of the grounds. It was great. The tour guides are a lot of fun.


Let's talk! Comments are always welcome!

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.