Cyber Monday Has Come and Gone… Without Me

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It’s five minutes past midnight. I have missed Cyber Monday.

Not for lack of trying. Oh, no. I surfed websites at lunch and on the bus ride home (Thanks, smartphone!). I looked through catalogs. I read all the advertising emails in my inbox looking for great deals.

I found some great deals. Still, I did not buy a thing.

I’m sitting here asking myself why I didn’t pull the trigger. I could have gotten a big chunk of my Christmas shopping done. I could have packages flying through the air to me in the next few days, all ready for me to wrap them up in holiday goodness.

Some years, I might have beaten myself up about this. “Argh! I am such a procrastinator! Why didn’t I do this? What is wrong with me?”

Not this year. This year, I know better. There is nothing wrong with me. In fact, there is something very, very right: I decided not to succumb to the pressure of an externally-imposed deadline.

If there was not some particular thing I needed to buy today, then I didn’t need to shop today. I can shop tomorrow. Or this weekend, or in a week or two. The holidays will still be there. The shops will still want my business. I didn’t need a big sale, a false urgency, to dictate when I purchase the gifts I’ll be giving this year. I will get them when I am ready.

Yes, I might have some small regrets. I might not save quite as much. I might miss some real deals. But that is the price I was willing to pay to have gotten through this shopping weekend with my sense of self-worth unscathed. (I did hit the mall on Friday, but for two specific things, neither of which were on sale, and which I was planning to buy anyway.)

I missed Cyber Monday… and I am so glad I did.

xo – Lori

Daily Check-In: (or semi-weekly check-in, at this rate!)

I’m grateful for my family for putting up with the mess I have created in the house this week. It’s very much the “storm before the calm;” things will be better when I am done, but it looks terrible now!

I’m also grateful, of course, for the photo by Akira Ohgakie.

a tale of two kitties

The third week in September was a hectic one for us. Two family members were seriously ill, Quinland broke her leg, David’s mom came for a visit… and we got two cats.

We’d chosen the Cat Adoption Day weeks before, when we had no way of knowing that our lives would already be topsy-turvy. A friend – inspired in part by our own trip overseas – had decided that he wanted to travel the world and telecommute for work, if only he could find someone to adopt his two cats. Coincidentally, we’d been talking about getting a pet or two; our excuse for not having one had always been that we would someday be gone on a long trip, but now that point was moot. So it was that after many family discussions and intercontinental Facebook chats, we agreed to adopt the cats.

Hardly a day goes by that we do not wonder what the heck we were thinking.

Let me introduce you to the cats. They are sisters – eight years old, I believe – named Jinx and Fu.


This is Jinx. She has long hair and a loud voice. She is in love with our friend Greg and cries when he disappears from her sight. Jinx believes she that there is treasure behind every closed door and that if she can just scratch at the door enough, it will open and the treasure will be hers. She will sit on your lap to be petted and likes to be held in your arms like a baby.


This is Fu. She has short hair, crossed eyes, and a wonky meow. She eats all of her own food and half of Jinx’s, so she is quite plump while Jinx is a skinny-mini. Fu will not sit in your lap, but she will hop up on the bed and curl up by you. She is not fond of closed doors, either, especially if she knows one of us is behind the door. Fu is an escape artist; you have to block any exterior door as it opens and closes.

I’ve gotten used to the routine of feeding the cats, brushing them, and cleaning the litter box. I am not at all used to all the attention-seeking behavior. We do play with the cats regularly, morning and evening; they have toys and balls and a cat castle and scratching thingys. But somehow, it never seems to be enough, and they beg for more attention. Loudly. I am not sure if this is because of the upheaval they suffered in moving from living in a sparsely-furnished apartment with a single guy who worked from home to a comparatively giant house filled with people and all kinds of stuff. Regardless, I thought it would be settling down after two months!

Jinx and Fu could get all the attention they’d ever want from Quinland. She would love the cats if they would let her. Sadly, since Q broke her leg three days before the cats arrived, they have only ever seen her with crutches. They do not like crutches, so they are wary. As she has gone from full-leg cast to half-leg cast to walking boot, Q has gotten more mobile and has been able to get down and play with them more. They are starting to warm up to her, thank goodness!

xo – Lori

Daily Check-In:

I’m grateful for time spent with Q’s people and my people on Thursday nights for Glee. Tonight, we moms got to do the arm movements to “Greased Lightning” and sing all our favorite Grease songs. The poor girls… they don’t know whether to die of shame or die laughing.

happy days and nights


I’ve just had a lovely weekend.

Yesterday, my friend Deb and I went to scrapbook all day at our friend Sue’s house. Well… Deb scrapbooked, and I worked on the travel blog. I got two posts done, another one nearly done – I can’t figure out how to do a mosaic of photos, so it may take me a while to get that one up! – and I was very proud of myself.

Last night, I went to a wine-and-cheese fest at my friend Lorraine’s. I hadn’t seen her in nearly a year, we decided… and it was high time I did. We had a fantastic time, though I did not eat a bite of cheese! I got home very late and didn’t get to bed until 2.

Today, I slept in late, visited with friends when I dropped Q off at a birthday party, picked up some incredible food at Laughing Planet, and stopped at a garage sale (where a friend gave me a big bag of clothes – for free!). That was my idea of a great morning.

I came home and filled my yard debris can, when suddenly all the birthday party girls descended on our house for the afternoon. They’d been discussing their favorite Disney films from childhood and had settled on Lion King 1-1/2. Since we own both the video cassette and a working VCR, they came by here to watch the film. I watched a bit, then did some dishes and some laundry.

My evening began with a trip to the grocery store for food and cat supplies, a run to get Thai food for the girls, some time reading a Pride and Prejudice sequel, and a glorious hour spent taking turns playing YouTube videos with David. This ended with an attempt to only play ” bombastic” songs – which meant we heard a lot of Muse – and a general freaking-out of the cats. Apparently bombast only goes so far in the feline mind.

I know, I know – there was no big news here, no theme for this post, no underlying message. Just a peek into my life and the things that make me happy. My only regret? I didn’t make it to Mass, where they were having the folk group play and real live Bingo afterward. That, and a trip to Goodwill, would have made the weekend perfect.

xo – Lori

Daily Check-In:

I’m grateful for music! We haven’t spent such dedicated time listening to music together lately. I miss it. I miss having our records in our main living space, all nice and handy.

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