FlyLady’s three questions

I’ve been listening to a FlyLady CD in my car this week. It’s from a talk she gave to Ohio farm women about ten years ago, where she explains the FlyLady system and how (and why) to implement it.

I was particularly struck by one section, where she indicates the three questions to ask every item in your home:

Do I love you?

We should not have anything we do not love in our homes. I started decluttering this morning with this in mind. It turns out that I have quite a few things that I just “like,” and a few more that I’m not fond of at all! Those went quickly into the Goodwill box and will be donated tomorrow.

Do you make me smile?

Ah, this one is tougher. There are certain things that I keep because I love them, but when I see them, it is not love I feel, but disappointment (in the item, or in myself for keeping it) or anger (because I spent so much money on it and have never used it) or even, perhaps, sadness (because it reminds me of a loss of some sort). But FlyLady points out that life is too short to beat yourself up and feel guilty. If something has bad emotional ties, you can cut them. Just pass the item on or throw it away.

Do I have a place for you?

And… here’s the clincher. Quite frankly, I have WAY more stuff than I have space… and I have quite a bit of space. I need to pick up each thing that is out of place and find it a home, if it doesn’t have one already. No home? No room? Adios!

I’ve let go of some interesting things today – some clothes, many greeting cards, stacks of magazines – and made a pretty good dent in the pile of stuff beside my bed. I’ll take a break from it for Easter, but I’ll be back to decluttering on Monday! Go, me!

Do you have a place for everything? Do you have everything in its place? Do you put things where they belong right away, or do piles of “stuff I need to put away” develop all over your home as they do in mine?

Walk MS with me!

Walk MS logoOn April 13th, I will be taking to the streets of Portland with my family and friends for the Walk MS fundraiser.

I thought I’d share the text from our team page with you:

Welcome to the Distractingly Beautiful Cats team for Walk MS! (Quinland and her friend Molly finalized our team name – thanks, guys!)

We’ve formed a team for the Walk MS event because we want to experience a great event and help the National MS Society fund research, advocate for change, and help people with MS. We believe in this cause. Can we count on your support?

Walk MS is a day that brings friends, families, and coworkers together to embrace an important cause. Join us and participate together to make a powerful statement and to keep moving toward a cure. Each step we take brings us closer to a world free of MS.

About MS

Millions of people are affected by MS and the challenges of living with its unpredictable symptoms. Multiple sclerosis interrupts the flow of information between the brain and the body and it stops people from moving. Every hour in the United States, someone is newly diagnosed with MS, a disease of the central nervous system. Symptoms range from numbness and tingling to blindness and paralysis. The progress, severity and specific symptoms of MS in any one person cannot yet be predicted, but advances in research and treatment are moving us closer to a world free of MS.

For the type of MS I have – Primary Progressive MS – there is currently NO treatment and there are NO disease-modifying medications approved by the FDA. (Even my megadose steroid protocol is experimental, though we hope it is doing something to keep my immune system calmed down!) All we can do is manage the symptoms. That’s why I am doing Walk MS – I want to support all those who are searching for a treatment and a cure.

Join our team!

Joining our team means you help us raise critical funds to support local programs and cutting-edge research. Your donation puts us closer to realizing our promise to STOP MS in its tracks, RESTORE lost function and END MS forever. Ending MS means no one will receive an MS diagnosis again. Every step counts. Every dollar helps. Every connection matters.

If you would like to walk with us and/or donate any amount – no matter how large or small – visit our team page by clicking here.

I wrote this for Get Started… Go! – but feel free to comment here – and to donate!

ToDo’sDay – 26 March 2013

Lord, have mercy. I got exactly one thing done on the list from last week: I went to the Girl Scout leader meeting. That’s it.

It’s not like I sat on my lazy behind all week, either. I moved furniture, dusted behind it, vacuumed under it, and moved it back. I cleaned baseboards. I did dishes and laundry. I cleaned out old Girl Scout papers. I made a trip to IKEA. I bought an old-fashioned reel lawnmower on Craigslist. I went out to dinner with friends on Saturday night and still made it to Mass on Palm Sunday.

But oh. my. goodness. Why in the world have I not done the things on this list? I suppose, technically, that I have been doing the Office tasks, which are pretty much never-ending at this point. But… still!

My eyes are drooping. My cat is sitting in a drawer. My husband is sending me to bed.

And you? Are you as bad as I am? I feel like St. Paul in Romans 7:15: “ I do not understand my own actions. For I do not do what I want, but I do the very thing I hate.”