Plan #10 – Share the love: Whitney & Tim

Edited to add: Since I wrote this post almost two years ago, my friends have been blessed by growing their family through adoption – twice! Thanks to everyone for your thoughts and prayers and good wishes for them!  – Lori

My friend Whitney and her husband Tim are hoping to adopt a baby soon, and – knowing what awesome parents they would be – I am honored to have a chance to share their introductory letter with you. I’ve known Whitney since she was younger than Quinland, and have gotten to know and love her dearly over the years. I have seen Whitney and Tim’s relationship through the dating years, to their wedding, and now as a wonderful couple ready to start a family.

If you know of anyone seeking an adoptive family, I couldn’t recommend Whitney and Tim more highly. Click on the link below to go to their website and see more photos and read more about them. (It’s very cool.) Now, I’ll let them speak for themselves:

Whitney Tim Star

Thank you so much for giving us this opportunity to introduce ourselves and tell you more about our family. We’re Whitney and Tim, a loving and supportive couple that has been together for over 10 years. The thought of becoming parents has us thrilled and we are grateful that you love your unborn child so much that you are willing to consider an adoption plan for him or her. Although we have never met, we already admire you for having the courage and strength to choose adoption for your child.

Our Lives Together:

Together we feel like we are in a perfect place in life to welcome a child. We have an extended family that is very supportive and looking forward to a new baby! In fact, Tim’s dad was adopted, making adoption a familiar situation. Both of us grew up in Oregon and have now landed in Washington, less than an hour from Seattle. Our home is located in a great neighborhood near a large park with a lake. We own a house with plenty of space and a large fenced yard that is perfect for a child. Traveling is something we love and most recently we went to the Caribbean, where we swam with stingrays and went cave tubing. We have also traveled through Europe exploring ancient castles, palaces and other exciting places. We can’t wait to share new travel adventures with your child.

About Whitney:

I played water polo in high school, and also swam on the swim team and swim club. Education is extremely important to me. I earned a bachelor’s degree from Portland State. I love walking our dog, Star, a rat terrier, nearly every day at the park near our house with a group of friends. Other hobbies I enjoy are sewing projects for family and friends, and also scrapbooking memorable moments in life. My favorite place to visit is the Pacific Coast, where our dog loves to play in the sand. Reading is another passion I have, along with going to the movies and watching my favorite TV shows, Game of Thrones, Grey’s Anatomy and The Big Bang Theory.

About Tim:

I like to stay active whether it’s skiing and snowboarding in the winter or trying something new during the summer. Growing up, I played a variety of sports including football, basketball, and baseball. I’m always up for a new adventure, but also enjoy relaxing by watching movies, reading books, or simply being with family and friends. I work as an engineer and have earned two master’s degrees with honors. Luckily, my career provides a lot of flexibility, so I’ll always be actively involved in the upbringing of your child.

Thank you for letting us introduce ourselves. Should you choose us, your child will be cherished and loved unconditionally with every opportunity to live a happy, eventful and fulfilling life from two devoted parents. If you would like to get to know us better we will gladly send you a picture book. Please also visit our website for more information. Please feel free to email us at or call (888) 695-4708 or text at (971) 236-7801. Please contact our attorney at (206) 728-5858. Ask for Joan. Reference file # 1077


In response to The Daily Post’s writing prompt: “Worldly Encounters.”

Today, the Irish people voted on marriage equality, on an amendment to their constitution that would add the following language: Marriage may be contracted in accordance with law by two persons without distinction as to their sex.

I’ve been hearing about it from my young Irish friends for months now on social media; they are all in the “Vote YES” camp and have been feeling frustrated by those who are pushing for a NO vote. These young women – and the young women around me on a daily basis – have no problem whatsoever with the idea of marriage equality. To them, what is important in a marriage is the person you love, not their gender or their sex – or yours.

Apparently, many young Irish people agree with them. I’ve been impressed and moved by those who are tweeting #hometovote on Twitter today as they travel from all over the world to return to Ireland to cast their vote. Though voting by mail is the rule here in Oregon – and, I am sure, would have helped many of those expat Irish voters save precious time and money – going to the polls in person has a special significance. It is, quite literally, a way to stand up and be counted.

Yes EqualityAnd what do these people who want marriage equality really want? I would explain – to an alien who had no idea what makes someone human – that they want love and commitment, and the rights that the word “marriage” gives to those who make that commitment in our society. If the concepts were still unclear, perhaps I’d play this old Depeche Mode song:

I want somebody to share / share the rest of my life
share my innermost thoughts / know my intimate details
someone who’ll stand by my side / and give me support
and in return / she’ll get my support
she will listen to me / when I want to speak
about the world we live in / and life in general
though my views may be wrong / they may even be perverted
she’ll hear me out / and won’t easily be converted
to my way of thinking  / in fact she’ll often disagree
but at the end of it all / she will understand me

I want somebody who cares / for me passionately
with every thought and / with every breath
someone who’ll help me see things / in a different light
all the things I detest / I will almost like
I don’t want to be tied / to anyone’s strings
I’m carefully trying to steer clear of / those things
but when I’m asleep / I want somebody
who will put their arms around me / and kiss me tenderly
though things like this / make me sick
in a case like this / I’ll get away with it

As I write this post, the polls in Ireland have closed, but the results have not yet been tabulated. I don’t know if the first country to put the idea of marriage equality to the popular vote will have seen that referendum pass. I am heartened, however, by the young people of that country and of my own, and I believe that we will soon live in a world where people are free to marry somebody they love.

(Want to listen to the song? It’s gorgeous. Alan Wilder’s piano playing is so perfect.)

Walk MS with me!

Walk MS logoOn April 13th, I will be taking to the streets of Portland with my family and friends for the Walk MS fundraiser.

I thought I’d share the text from our team page with you:

Welcome to the Distractingly Beautiful Cats team for Walk MS! (Quinland and her friend Molly finalized our team name – thanks, guys!)

We’ve formed a team for the Walk MS event because we want to experience a great event and help the National MS Society fund research, advocate for change, and help people with MS. We believe in this cause. Can we count on your support?

Walk MS is a day that brings friends, families, and coworkers together to embrace an important cause. Join us and participate together to make a powerful statement and to keep moving toward a cure. Each step we take brings us closer to a world free of MS.

About MS

Millions of people are affected by MS and the challenges of living with its unpredictable symptoms. Multiple sclerosis interrupts the flow of information between the brain and the body and it stops people from moving. Every hour in the United States, someone is newly diagnosed with MS, a disease of the central nervous system. Symptoms range from numbness and tingling to blindness and paralysis. The progress, severity and specific symptoms of MS in any one person cannot yet be predicted, but advances in research and treatment are moving us closer to a world free of MS.

For the type of MS I have – Primary Progressive MS – there is currently NO treatment and there are NO disease-modifying medications approved by the FDA. (Even my megadose steroid protocol is experimental, though we hope it is doing something to keep my immune system calmed down!) All we can do is manage the symptoms. That’s why I am doing Walk MS – I want to support all those who are searching for a treatment and a cure.

Join our team!

Joining our team means you help us raise critical funds to support local programs and cutting-edge research. Your donation puts us closer to realizing our promise to STOP MS in its tracks, RESTORE lost function and END MS forever. Ending MS means no one will receive an MS diagnosis again. Every step counts. Every dollar helps. Every connection matters.

If you would like to walk with us and/or donate any amount – no matter how large or small – visit our team page by clicking here.

I wrote this for Get Started… Go! – but feel free to comment here – and to donate!